Why Apologizing Is Healthy?
pinoyambisyoso.com | May 02, 2008 | Comments 30
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People thought that saying I Am Sorry is the hardest thing to do. Words that is about to get fall from your lips, but not in your mind. Literally you wouldn’t want to say those words because in your head your ego’s eating you alive. I know you’ve been there and I am too.
This is happening and especially true where for real, your friend and love ones are concerned.
Deciding and learning how to say “I am sorry” can have some healthful benefits, if you examine what’s behind your powerlessness to utter those two little words.
As the old saying goes “no one is perfect”, having the power or ability to admit when you are wrong or commit mistake has a cleansing effect. You no longer carry the burden of having to be right about everything
It’s like fleshing out the toxins in your physical body.
Emotionally, you release the tension you carry around from guilt when you know you should apologize.
I am aware of these things since I have background in medical field. Look what will happen to you. Keep on reading.
The physical manifestations of your emotions during the time like love, happiness, joy will give you a happy smile, your eyes are shining, you look fresh, your skin glows and you are not aware of it. In other words, you don’t need to say you are beautiful because people look at you more than being beautiful.
On the other hand, bad emotions manifest by overeating – you gain more weight without noticing it, you tend to drink excessively –didn’t you notice people drink too much when they experience burdens in life. It can also give headaches, disturbance, even a freckled or blemished skin.
Now you know the effects of hiding your bad emotions? If you feel like saying those words to someone you care, then say it. Remember, we live once in this life. God created us humans to work together and to love each other.
Saying I am sorry is not your lost. It won’t affect you as a person, but it will give you peace of mind, a happy life. Happy ending not only happens in fairy tales, it’s for real.
I lovingly dedicate this post to my co-blogger for bringing a peaceful ending. I want to express my sincere apologies and I am really happy that our story ends well with all our desires to have a meaningful life. May this experience serves as an inspiration to all.
Happy blogging and Wold Peace mga Kabisyo!
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it all boils down to one thing: HUMILITY
@itot pasensya na, kinanti ako eh. Si ambo kausap ko eh bigla sasabat ng may laman. alam ko naman ang laman nung sinasabi nya na labas ako dun. Nagexplain na nga ako sa halip na humingi ng depensa ginawa pa akong tanga. How hard is it for a person to admit that she misconstrued my comments tsk tsk. Hay buhay, sagabal sa ka pepe…
hello noemi again. as I have told you and you can even ask prudence months ago I am not against you. Im just wondering why you have to state such comments where in fact it is not referred to you. Many times we have commented both on certain posts across the blogosphere yet this is the first time you replied to me. Why now? why not in cath’s blog wherein I was asking a clarification from you in all courtesy? Don’t shift the gears by making this explanation that I have misconstrued your comments. Because you are not stating a difference. You are pointing at something which is beyond my experience already. I’m not involve in your squabbles. If I have a problem with you I will state it on my own and not drag anyone or meddle with others affairs. I’m not that stupid and so are you. We both know what you mean by that statement or “difference” as what you have called them. Dinerecha na kita kasi di naman ako nagpapaligoy ligoy. There, I cannot forgive you kasi your sorry is meant because according to you I perceived your comment wrongly, not because you are tactless enough to misinterpret mine as something referred to you. Wag na tayo magbolahan. nakasulat na itatangi pa. tsk tsk.
Tanong: Why do you have to emphasize the difference between the two? Ikaw ba si ambo? ikaw ba ang kausap ko sa telepono? alam mo ba pinagusapan namin para lang magkasundo sila? EXACTLY wala kang alam. so your defense that you are just making a difference between the two is null and void, since it doesnt make sense on my earlier comment. You are justifying things which are impossible to justify by mere analysis and common sense. Kausapin mo si Inang, at ng hindi ako ang tinitira mo ng paimbabaw. Hirap kasi di mo pa ako direchan eh alam naman natin tinutukoy mo. Wag kang mandamay ng tao. Noimi, I know you too well…
Thank you for your sorry, but no thanks, it just added insult to injury and I’m not pleased. Peace ka jan!
kala ko ga tungkol sa forgiveness tong entry mo ambo.bakit parang andine si dela joya at mayweather.peace mga kapatid.mejo di lang siguro ngkaintindihan kaya kala e kung sino yun sinasabihan.buti pa s mga rock concerts, khit mbalian s slam dance e itaas mo lng kamay mo at mag peace sign e ok na.tama na yan bangayan, pacheese burger n laang kayo!burger burger!
@bluep- I’m sorry you perceived my comment wrongly. I merely stated the difference between conditional and unconditional apology. You are entitled to your opinion and feelings. They are not wrong. I do not hold this against you.
Peace.
Saying sorry (when you mean it) is really hard sometimes. But the feeling after expressing it is like releasing your body toxins. You feel refreshed… para kang naka Green tea or Nesvita!
I used to avoid conflicts. You know, it’s really hard to say sorry after… so, better prevent it…
-Obnoxious Queer
Madame noemi.
(clueless, scratching my head).
With due respect I do not know what you are talking about. Ambo and I had a conversation over the phone about unconditional apology that’s why the peace was made between the two. From where you are coming from, and may I assume just by mere analysis of what you commented, it seems that you are too defensive and guilty of things which are not even tackled in this post or even in my comments. I suggest madame that you must not meddle with others affairs that you absolutely do not know since you have no idea what the context of my comment is. lest you will look foolishly in the eyes of readers. You said and I quote:
We can all co-exist peacefully even if we agree to disagree
Then why disagree with my stance? Why clarify? You are not even referred to on my comment for crying out loud. In your own words or something to that effect on your previous post—- “tell me if I need to modify my words just for you”
It’s been quite some time now let’s move on…”
talking about moving on yet it seems you are the one who is waddling in the murky waters of your baggages. Primarily rule for a mentally healthy person: DO NOT BE PARANOID! because I’m not referring to you. so why explain? ikaw lang ba ang nakaranas na humingi ng apology?
You blog for sympathy as if you are the victim telling so many inconsistencies and bragging that many people called you names yet here you are provoking an argument which in the first place you are not even mentioned or the recipient of such statement.
Lesson: don’t ever enter the enemy’s lair because lions will really devour you and oftentimes in your worst imagination conceivable.
It’s not my style to attack you from behind madame. if you are paranaoid that I am against you well it’s your own shadows that cringing on your malice. Practice madame watch you preach and maybe some of us will believe you.
Your previous comment on Ambo about him being “independent minded and mature” is somewhat inconsistent on what you are acting right now. Why drag me “on your internet drama” eh hindi naman ako kasali dyan. does that equate that because I frequent the queen’s blog I’m also your enemy? Talking about maturity.
And btw, because youbrought it up out of the blue,
Issues can get muddled up that one doesn’t even know what to apologize for
yet you twit it on twitterland.. innocence or washing of hands? Do not write with words, write with your heart because even if one is hiding in the guise of flowery words on blogs, and the glitters of the false assurance of rusty fame, the stench of motive and intentions still comes out like a bad odor from a carcass.
Wag mo ako idamay sa drama nyo. Kayo ang magkaaway at hindi ako. Sa kanya mo sabihin yang litanya mo. Wala ako panahon na pakielaman ka dahil hindi naman ako galit sayo personally, hindi ka naman mahalaga sa akin at hindi naman ikaw ganun kagaling magblog, lalong lalo na hindi ganyang ugali ang kinalakihan ko. Actually yan ang ugali na ayaw na ayaw ng mga pari at seminarista. Kung ako man ay may galit sayo, ay hindi sa pagkatao mo kungdi sa ugali mo. Learn to differentiate between the two. Wala pati ako makukuha kung papatulan kita sapagkat di nga ako pumapatol sa alam kong hindi parehas lumaban. kaya wag mo aksayahin ang oras ko at iprovoke ako dahil wala akong panahon para iblog kita, pansinin kita at tingnan kita dahil tao ang gusto kong kausap hindi robot!
Not all promdis are intimidated by you… its not a threat but a fact. Wala kang ginagawa na masama sa akin diba? o eh bakit explain ka pa ni hindi naman ikaw ang sinasabi ko? Bawal bang bangitin sa blog ang salitang “unconditional apology?” Pati ba naman yun you claim authority? Por dyos por santo naman oo, Kung nasasaktan ka at tinatamaan ka kahit di naman ikaw ang sinasabihan ko, eh problema mo na yun, wag ka kasi pumunta sa isang lugar na mapaparanoid ka lang. hindi kami tulad nyo na patalikod kung dumale. Batang Quezon at Batangas ako, barilan kung barilan sa harap at hindi sa likod!
Alam mo nanay ikaw ang disturbed. Mag move on ka na parang awa mo na. Be a peace maker. wag ikaw ang magcause ng chaos kasi di maganda yun, especially sa isang tao na maraming awards at graduate sa isang kilalang kolehiyo. Magfocus ka na lang sa awards mo at may mahihita ka pa. wag mo ako patulan kasi “nobody” ako. dun ka sa mga sikat kasi lalabas nyan desperado ka sa atensyon na pati mga nananahimik eh tinitira mo.
You shall know the tree by its fruits!
May your soul rest in peace kahit di ka pa deceased!
@bluep- yes, I understand that unconditional apology comes from a sincere heart if one knows what is really the issue in the first place. And Ambo knew what to apologize for. It was an unconditional apology.
Issues can get muddled up that one doesn’t even know what to apologize for. That’s why clarification is needed.
Thanks. This post just reminded me that I owe someone an apoloogy. I hope it isn’t too late.
PS. UNCONDITIONAL APOLOGY ALWAYS WORKS FOR THE SINCERE HEART…
BOW!!!
pasampung attempt ko na to magcomment palagi kinakain ni akis. ayoko na ulitin mga sinabi ko. halikwatin mo na lang sa balun-balunan ni akis. naiinis na ako dyan sa alaga mong akismet ha LOL LOL LOL.
Congrats na lang and kiss sabay hug nyahahaha.
Wag palagi emosyon kapatid. paganahin ang “Time Space Warp” kasi di naman lahat tao ay “boyscout” para makipagusap at pagusapan ang issue. “Time space warp” ang palagi dapat iconsider, then “distancia amigo muna”. Pag pareho na kayong kab scout, boy scout, star scout at girl scout, then “pagalabin na ang mga hayok na damdamin upang makapagisang dibdib na uli.
Pag naman ito ambo kinain pa ni akis, iproprotesta ko na itong blog mo nyahaha!
Pax Semper!
yipeeeeee!! kiss and make up na…lovers na ulittttt lol! because I know, no matter what happened e nandun pa rin yung friendship. Kaya nga may nasaktan e kasi nandun yung pagpapahalaga sa friendship diba?
saya nyan daddee ambo
dami ko nang namiss dinhe?! agree ako diya kafatad ku! It’s not only the “i’m sorry” that give you health benefits. You get even more benefit when you say, “I forgive you.”
I’m glad all is well kafatad ku. God bless!
all’s well that ends well!
Congrats to both of you. Kiss na then sabay hug. hahaha
…and world peace!
PS. Ambo sensya na di ako nakatext H.O. parin mula sa gimik kagabi– ang sakit sa ulo, medyo tipsy pa nga ngayon. tsaka por dyos por santo tumawag ka na lang kakapagod ang magtext. dumudugo na daliri ko. LOL
world peace kapatid! am so haffyyyyy *mwah*
salamat sa pagaayos nyong dalawa, pero totoo un na dapat pareho kayong humingi at tumanggap ng patawad sa isa’t isa.
*tumayo at pumalakpak (standing ovation)
woohoo! ambo for president! hehe.
ehem, ehem… (serious mode)
glad everything worked out, friendships usually grow stronger after a misunderstanding… so cheers to the both of you
*tinaas ang bote ng san mig light
inuman na! wahehe.
hmmm… out of character ang comment ko sa personality ng blog ko… hahaha…
sorry di ga yun yung kapag namumula at marami muta mata mo,sorry eyes!ahehehe! sabi nga daw e madali magpatawad.gasgas n nga ang kasabihan na kung ang diyos ay nagpapatawad, tao pa kaya. pero kung ang sugat pagtagal e nagiging peklat.ganon din kapag may tao kang di nakasundo lalo na kapag napalapit na sa iyo.matagal na panahon uli ang bubunuin para mawala yun peklat. in other words, start over again.
The words “I’m sorry” heal and bridge the gap. Glad it all worked out in the end. We can all co-exist peacefully even if we agree to disagree.
it is not easy but it is the most important thing that we should learn to do if we want to have world peace
i am glad to know everything is okay.
tito amboooooo – tenk you daw sa bulaklak sabi ng mga little kengkays. inangkin nila nung nalaman nilang blog mo yung binabasa ko, hehehe